“God Only Gives you what you can Handle”
I have really come to almost get angry when someone tells me this, or I hear others being told this. It doesn’t make any sense to me, and it is not Biblical at all! If fact, this can really harm out relationship with God. I think some well-intended people will try to tell you this to comfort you, but I certainly have never been comforted by it, have you?
You have to ask yourself why someone who loves me would try to hurt me. As a parent, I wouldn’t. Would I put my child’s hand on a hot stove and say? “I know you can handle the pain. I will just stand here by your side until it doesn’t hurt anymore.” No, what is the first thing we do? We teach our children that they can get hurt by a hot stove. And if that painful moment comes when they do touch it anyway, what do we do? We grab them and give them whatever first aid they need. We cry and hurt right along with them don’t we?
That is what God does; warns us about not being tempted, warns us that we can get hurt, and unfortunately when we give in to our temptations, he is there to help us out of them.
Some believe that the statement “God only gives you what you can handle” has its roots from 1 Corinthians, 10:13 which says:
Any temptation you face will be nothing new. But God is faithful, and He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can handle. But He always provides a way of escape so that you will be able to endure and keep moving forward.
If you read this carefully, you will see that it is not about God “giving” you some hardship; it is about God giving your strength in times of temptation. The Apostle Paul was discussing the problem of idolatry and unfaithfulness. The temptation was for some to maintain their social positions and relationships by participating in sacrifices to false gods or eating food that had been sacrificed to false gods.
The take-away here is that God is faithful and can be relied upon to get you through the rough times in your life. God can support you in your times of temptation and give you a way out of those situations. You can always turn to God whenever you can’t handle life’s inevitable crises. God will give you strength to get through it.
I pray that during this season of Lent, as you are tempted, perhaps for doing the things that you promise not to do, or things you gave up this Lent, you will be reminded that God is with you, to strengthen you to help you find a way out of that moment or situation, so that you can keep moving forward with the promises that you made, and to become more Christ like.